The Death of Your Child at the Hands of a Man …by Summer Bradshau
Recently in the news a 2 year old lost his life to the hands of his mother’s boyfriend or husband who was not the child’s father. Such a sad time for all three families but most importantly, his mother. His mother has to live with the fact that she trusted someone so much only for him to kill her son. She let the devil in! She allowed the devil to remove her son from this world.
God doesn’t need new angles by early departure. He can actually wait until it’s your actual time. We don’t need to give him angles before they are due!
One thing I learned in my life is that you cannot trust anyone with your children, and often times not even their own family. We would love to trust that people care as much about our loved ones as we do, whether it’s a senior parent or your child, people who are around the weak are often tainted with the purgatory of living. Their minds hang in between heaven and hell and just sometimes hell is where it dwells.
The mind can be a terrible thing to waste but can also be the most terrible thing to use. Currently in this recession the world feels the need to be medicated off any and everything. From high school to seniors we are pretty much all high on something. The ones who are not medicated are having trouble sleeping, having trouble thinking, having trouble determining what’s right and wrong even though a few years ago the mind was ok. We are at a different time and place right now and life is just … overwhelming!
Now that we know everyone is carrying great burdens, let’s look at reality … he beat a child to his death! Why would someone do such a thing?
As a mother of 3 myself, I have often had to leave my children in the care of someone so that I can do things in our lives that were beneficial and maybe even simply fun. Do mothers question their choice of people? Of course mothers and fathers question their choice of people but sometimes the situation called for help and sometimes all you can get is what you have to deal with like it or not. Is that good for the children? No but it’s something that we go through in life. Almost each and every parent.
Mothers are born with natural instincts that kick in when children are born. Mothers know how to love, forgive, trust etc. Not every woman will give birth to their natural instincts when they give birth to their child. Some women go through pregnancy as well as after the birth not caring for the child at all. We are flawed as humans but the bottom line should always be RESPECT. Respect to another human being.
Fathers have great bonds and some get the natural instinct as well as the mother. Some men will never feel any different having a child and buying a car. Sometimes those fatherly feelings may get in the way and the man rejects those feelings all together.
It’s a catch 22 when it comes to parenting and the feeling you carry with that role…
For some people, they have not become a parent as yet and don’t have the feelings of protection that parents have. If someone is not a parent, how will they know how to parent your child? They won’t know how to parent your child. They will only know how to respect your child as such.
Babysitting in my opinion should not be done by most men. Yes there are some men who are great at caring for kids but for the most part men SHOULD not babysit because of the lack of natural instincts that realistically exist.
The majority of children who die of abuse are killed by men and usually the boyfriend of the mother and most often when the mother is not at the home at the time.
Men can have no hidden agenda (women do as well) while they are sitting there watching the child play or listening to the child scream and cry but at some point, people snap and as a result, can’t handle the child and become violent, often out of their inner control. The mind simply snaps and now your child is dead and the person is in prison.
This can often be prevented …. How? MEN SHOULD NOT BABYSIT!
I hear women say, it’s not babysitting if it’s their own kid! Well yes it is technically because they don’t have the same maternal hearts that you do!
A man can be sitting there watching the child and all of a sudden a weird thought pops in their mind. They start looking at the child different. They get up and walk away and maybe even go in the kitchen and get something to eat but when they sit back down and start watching that child again, an evil thought starts to overtake their mind. Somewhere in the mind something was never right but you thought it was and you tried to make it right!
Now that the evil thoughts have started, the child by natural instinct starts to agitate the guardian and now the guardian has turned into a mental transformer of an abuser instantly within just a few moments or hours. The thoughts that are now provoked into the guardians mind are that of evil spirits and at this point the child is no longer safe. It is not what the child does that causes death, it’s what the guardian conceives in their sick and twisted minds that were not of this nature yesterday. (Maybe)
As a mother you hope the people you love will love and respect you in return but you have to be realistic and know that you only have control over yourself. You cannot control what other people do and think. Once you realize this you can have an easier life.
When I was a young single mother I knew that I had to protect my children. In order for me to protect my children I had to keep them from harm. In order to keep them from harm I had to keep people out of their lives. Sometimes those people were even family if that family was doing something that was not in good health or deed to my children. You may like your family member but if they smoke in front of your child, then maybe you can’t visit that family member when you have your child with you and you definitely may not want that person to babysit if you know that they will be smoking around your child.
As a parent I did not allow my children to sit on grown folks laps if I could help it. It’s not something we can allow in these days and times. We have to do our part to not provoke people into thinking and doing naughty things. We only have control over what we do so if I don’t sit my daughter on Uncle Smatts lap then Uncle Smatt won’t get horny and molest my child. Sometimes those thoughts in someone’s mind do not appear until Satan wants it to and you don’t want to help out.
I didn’t have a lot of boyfriends in my life because I had children and it was my responsibility to protect them. You have to limit the contact with men for the good of your children. Yes you have a right to have a life but your first right is to raise your child in a healthy and safe environment and often parents need to stay single in an effort to do so.
Get a babysitter (only if it’s convenient and safe) and go out and meet your date, you can even spend the night but your child does not need to be around every boyfriend or girlfriend you get. Sometimes a casual friend is all you can afford if it means keeping your child safe.
Children are children and not everyone can handle children. I am a parent as well as grandparent but I realize that children provoke me into stress sometimes so I have to limit when I babysit. Point blank period. It’s a whole mental mind thing I know but I know my limits so I use them accordingly. I’m not going to open up a daycare to make money and end up abusing the children because they work my nerves. If children irritate you, then by all means, don’t be around them and don’t babysit. You don’t have to apologize for that, it’s just you and you have a right to be you.
Boyfriends come a dime a dozen (girlfriends as well). They are most often temporary people in our journey of life. To trust them among your children is a huge step. That step should be taken with some precautionary measures. If you want to move someone into your life with your children it may be time to look at their police records. If they don’t have any, great, but still be cautious. Some men get with women who have children just so they can abuse them. Just so they can ruin their innocent lives. Sometimes the mother see’s it and ignores it, often times not because the predator is really good at disguises.
The Peterson child that was killed by his mother’s boyfriend was an innocent child. He didn’t deserve to die and no other child does as well. STOP ALLOWING MEN (BOYFRIENDS) TO BABYSIT your children. They just can’t handle children the way women can. It’s not saying they are a bad person or they will actually harm your child, you are just preventing something from stirring … in the mind of an evil person. (Women are abusers as well; we are talking about boyfriends today)
CHILDREN deserve to be protected by our boyfriends and girlfriends and step parents. It’s not right for the sake of love or orgasms to allow anyone to mentally or physically hurt your children. You took an oath to love and protect your children and sometimes that means being alone or single in order to do that. Everyone is so quick to re-marry, shack up after break-ups with the kids … that’s not cool. Let your children get a break from confusion. Allow them time to heal by being alone for a while. What you do affects your children too.
You have everyone watching your children and you have no idea what goes on when you are not there. Well, it’s time to know. Set up nanny cams or whatever you need but please stop letting your fly by night boyfriends babysit your children… They don’t deserve to die because the dick was good!
I’m just keeping it real …as a single parent; I had to go through it too!
Summer Bradshau, The Realist Mistress